Every day we have the gift of living but we  also are given the privilege of choice. When things don't come our way as they ought, people don't treat us as we deserve, options on how to respond pop up quickly.

To be kind and gracious in the face of injustice and unkindness towards us, is a real challenge. It makes me think how hard I would find it to be thankful on a day when the rain is pouring down, I am soaking wet, my shoes are gushing, but in my heart, I am giving thanks for the health and gift of strength and even a place to go to.

Complaing is a life sucking habit. Whether you are the complainer or the listener. If you think about the last time your boss or teacher looked over that project  you felt so good about. You looked forward to some needed afirmation but they found that one thing to dwell on,  and complained about.

You are deflated, just like a tire on a bike or car. It is so hard to move forward. 

Keys to moving from that place if you are the one who is in the receiving end, forgive them, learn what you can and move on. Don't give in to stewing about it and don't tell a million people. That is how to get  the roots of bitterness growing in your soul. In every retelling, it is like fertilizing a grudge. That my friend is a bad habit. I am not telling you this becuase I have mastered. I have no shortage of opportunity to practice what I am saying here.

On the other hand, if you are the complainer, know that you are not breathing life into yourself or your listeners. If something must be said, let it be said with wisdom added. Know when you have said enough. Be kind and clear. When wisdom is applied, it becomes constructive criticism. 

Living daily, with grace is wise . That is what sets you apart from the rest. In a field of dandelions, you will be that beautiful flower, .... Pick your favorite...that is you.