When I was on my way to a gym today, I heard yelling in the parking lot. A young woman and guy were having a loud argument. The guy yelled " what its all my fault?!" That in itself is not big deal. Then guy jumped into his car and began driving away. The 24 or so year old young woman was holding onto the car door pleading with the guy to please let her in the car as he was driving away. She ran along side the car, but could not keep up.

The guy stopped at the exit of the parking lot long enough for the girl to catch up. I thought the guy was cooling down and realized he was being a bit dramatic. No... not so. As soon as the girl caught up to him, he took off again. This poor girl pleading with him as she now ran across the street and followed him. She never did catch up to him. For her sake, I hope she never sees him again. 

I so wanted to chase down the street after the girl and tell her she deserved better. The loss was his, not hers. I don't know what the argument was over, nor who he was. Regardless, that is no way to be respectful to another person regardless of the story. 

I stood and debated what I should do watching this girl disappear down the street. Sadly, I went to the gym and worked out, thinking of the girl. Why do girls allow themselves to be treated like that? Maybe they feel they are not worth better. When I was at the gym yesterday, many of the young women in my Pilates class were singing along to a song called "Won't you stay the night"... I have no idea who sings it. The song says no problem if you just stay the night, no commitment, no ties.... honestly I wanted to be sick right there in class. 

If you are in a dating relationship and being treated poorly, quit while you are ahead. You are worth more. You should not have to chase cars while a guy has a temper tantrum. A guy who cares for you listens and considers what you are saying. You talk. They don't storm away like that. No storming allowed! 

Clearly, this is not permission for high drama for you or I. We need to be respectful. If the respect you show is not being returned to you, it is time to say "see you later". 

God loves you and knows what you need. Look to Him for wisdom- that comes not from magazines or songs on the radio, but from God. James 1:5 says that if we are lacking wisdom, we can ask God who will give it to us. He may not be super quick about it, but wait. He will give it to you.