In the  Globe and  Mail, there was an article about a marriage of many years. In the Q&A it was called"How this couple saved their marriage by embracing non-monogamy had having sex with others". We just celebrated Valentines day last week. I confess, I have no comprehension of how this could work. 

I know that in some religions there is one husband a sometimes several wives. Even in the Old Testament, there are many examples. That is not my experience. I am thankful indeed. I cannot imagine. I still remember the day my neighbour came to my door crying and very angry. Her husband had taken on a new younger wife. It is acceptable in his culture. I am pretty sure, that is not how it goes here in Canada.

In this article however, both parties share different partners. In Toronto there are now Swing clubs. Apparently very popular. No thank you... I will stick to square dancing. Call me old fashioned if you like. I will happily share a plate of cookies or a good home cooked meal, but my husband is off limits.

Even as I write this, I shake my head. It is incompressible to me. Imagine the conversations at the dinner table..ok, let's not. 

To be loved and loved well is a gift and one I am eternally thankful for. To know that my husband loves me no matter what my dress size. In fact, he is sick of the conversation. He is there for me , believing in me and cheering for me daily. When I think back to 30 years of marriage, I know that it has been a gift from God. Not all seasons of marriage are easy,that is true. When the waters got rough, bringing some new man on the scene would not have brought the sizzle..that I can tell you.

Love is patient and kind. It is not self seeking. Love waits while the other is struggling and does not give up. It honours it's promises. Love never fails. People do, but then, love also forgives. 

We don't live in a perfect world for sure. Every story is different. I will stick to just one husband thank you. God is the centre in our marriage. Where He is centre ,confusion dissipates. 

Wisdom from God is first of all pure. What I read in this article and their solution does not reflect the wisdom of God. Of this... I am pretty sure.