Donna says “ Commitment is a big deal depending how you think about it in a relationship. Some people hold to the idea that unless they are planning to get married to the person, they refuse to commit. Some view commitment more like smelling a flower in the garden of choices with the outcome yet to be determined. One thing for certain is you both need to have the same understanding of what commitment in your relationship means.”

“You need to ask yourself some very specific questions about the other person. At the same time, you need to be very honest with yourself with the answers.”

For example:

1. Do they make you a better person?

2. Is it ever a chore to be with them?

3. Are you happier when they are around?

4. Do you like them even with their faults?

5. Are you looking to be in a relationship because you are lonely? That is not a good reason to commit if you cannot answer yes to the above questions.

6. Do you feel like you are settling like you are settling for second best?

7. Are you ready to be considering another in your plans?

8. Have you really taken the time to think the possibility of this commitment through?

9. Do you like how them just because they are physically attractive or does it go beyond that.

10. If you are a Christian, do they share your faith? Will they help you grow in your faith? Have you asked Jesus what He would have you do?

Pastor Jon says- ”If you have chosen to follow Jesus, the question of whether to commit should involve you asking the question, “Is this someone who pushes me closer to Jesus and causes me to love him more?” If that question cannot be answered with full confidence, then you should not entertain the thought of commitment.”