One Helpful thing to remember as we get ready for Christmas Gatherings!

 When I read magazines, they are all about table settings, menus and stunning outfits you want to be seen in. All of these things add something to a celebration, but none of it matters if this one thing is missing.

 As Christians we celebrate Immanuel, God with us, being born in the manger; we welcome His presence. The Author of love came down to live among us and made a way for us to know God our Father. What a beautiful truth, but not my point at the moment.

 Here is the one thing: the way we navigate situations with difficult, over-sensitive loved ones matters. There is a saying, “ hurt people hurt people”. It doesn’t matter how nice your table settings are or how elaborate the menu you have worked so hard to prepare in great love for those dear to you is, it may not be a game changer for this loved one.

 You sit down to the table, say your prayer of thanksgiving and pass the food around. Then begins the conversations. This loved one speaks up and your stomach goes into a knot, you brace yourself. Surely Christian families are beyond this, but if we are being honest, we are all a work in progress, some more so than others. How do we navigate these moments?

 There are a few things that come to my mind. As much as we would love to control the response of everyone around the table only one thing is certain: the one person you have most control over, is you.

 I sat down this morning and wrote out 1 Corinthians 13:4-8A.” If we could apply the truth that our Lord laid out for us here, wow, what a difference we would experience,

 “ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, it does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It aways protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

 This season, let us not only prepare the meal, but our soul and our mind. As we pray and seek God for help to respond with the wisdom and instruction of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, it does help. It is challenging when you have a loved one who looks at life through a cracked lens. How we respond can quiet them or make it worse. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us “ A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh answer stirs up anger.”

 Lastly, my husband Bill has a saying that I keep in mind, “ Not all truth needs to be spoken because not all truth is helpful.”

 Dear Father,

I give to you the gatherings I have with family and friends in the weeks to come. I ask in Jesus Name I will be filled with wisdom and Your love as I relate to all people. Help me be silent when I ought and speak when it is helpful. May Your love fill me, Father. I don’t have enough on my own, that is for sure! Thank you.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

 When I was praying last night, the Lord reminded me of these 4 truths in regard to loved ones who choose the fork in the road. Many of us have a loved one who was dedicated to God as babies, raised in the church, prayed over at night at children but still chose to walk on another road, seemingly disregarding much of what hey learned as children. For those who watch, it can be heartbreaking.

 As I watched one of my loved ones wander and wander, these were four truths we came back to time and time again. God’s promises are still true my friend, no matter what.

1.  In a battle, it is good to remember who it is we are truly at war with. It is not a war that is won by clever arguments. We love well and we pray according to Ephesians 6:10 -18Finally be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our battle is not against flesh and blood but against the rulers against the authorities against the powers of this dark world...”

2. Regardless of what is happening with our loved one, the truth that they were given to God has not changed. This promise of God still stands, and we rest in it. God’s eye is still on your loved one, whether they believe it or not. John 10:29 My Father who has given them to me, is greater that all ; no one can snatch them out of my hand. “

 3.  No matter what we see from where we stand, According to God’s word, He is always working. We don’t know who God is putting in our loved one’s path. John 5:17 Jesus said “ My Father is always working to this very day, and I too am working”.

4. Lastly, don’t give up. Prayer is never a waste of your time. It is not pointless. I hear people say, “ all we can do is pray” , like I it is a last resort. Prayer is powerful. We have all seen God do mighty things in our lifetime and He is not stopping now. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer Romans 12:12

 My friend, whoever you think of when you consider a loved one who chose another road then the one you had hope and prayed for, remember these truths today. No one is beyond the reach of  our Good Shepherd. He is not lazy nor is He forgetful or uncaring. He is fully trustworthy and full of LOVE!

 Dear Father,

Thank you for these wonderful reminders of what is still true. I give my loved one today into your care. Thank you for whatever You are doing in their life regardless if it is evident to me or not. I trust You with them.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

The Power of the Name of Jesus!

I love to hear when God does great things. I especially love the testimony of someone I know who has witnessed firsthand the power of the Name of Jesus. 

Last week my son  was texting with his dad over his deep disappointment of not being able to return home for the weekend.  He works in the far north building houses in native communities.  Normally he is in for 3 weeks at a time, working 12 hours a day every day.  This run has been over 4 weeks already with another 2 to go, because of the urgency of the situation in this community.  He is exhausted and asked his boss to step out for the weekend.  Unfortunately the weather turned bad and first one plane and then another flew up to get him but couldn’t land because of poor visibility.  His effort at rest was scuttled.  This hit age old buttons in him making him feel forgotten and passed by.  Bill knew this and called him realizing what was going on that he might pray with him.  Our son was very low.

The phone connection was not great so after the prayer he texted the following:

“About 4 days being here, my hearing dissipated. Everyone had to repeat everything two or three times in order for me to understand them.  Guys were yelling at me so I’d hear them.  Been weeks now.Yesterday when you prayed, the strength in my legs (which isn’t much) gave out and I almost collapsed. Then something was pulled right off me.  Most significant was I literally felt my ears open.  In that exact moment I could finally hear birds and more machines and my guys talking on the other side of the lot.Then the strength returned to my legs 10 fold, my back straightened, and the exhaustion was gone.  I’m still tired but I’m not exhausted.  I got it in me to finish 2 more weeks.  1 school done.  Now I gotta get these 4 houses finished.”  

Philippians 2:9-11: "Therefore God exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father"

As we come into the throne room today, what a wonderful reminder that as we pray in Jesus Name, there is great power assurance of victory! Praise the Name of Jesus! 

Dear Father,

I praise You for the privilege that is ours to pray in the mighty name of Jesus.  Such prayer is always powerful and life changing. Thank you for giving us such effectiveness in prayer and hope that dark situations can be turned around.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

When the Invited Guests Don’t Show Up!

Yesterday I spent quite a while cutting huge chunks of choice roast beef into nice slices so we could serve them to the dear people who come to our door. Many are homeless – all are poor.

 While I was cutting meat, my husband was heating up perogies, pasta, and carrots to complete the feast. Let me just say, the street friends with one voice said, “You guys have outdone yourselves today!”  Normally it is a bag lunch, sometimes chili or spaghetti. Never a meal like this.  These folks were very thankful.

 Someone very kindly donated 100 servings of this unbelievable meal. As I was standing there slicing this roast beef, I wondered what happened to the 100 people who did not show up for such an incredible meal.

 In Matthew 22:1-14, Jesus tells the story of a king who was hosting a wedding  banquet. In those days, the word went out that the wedding feast was about to happen, and it would be ready soon! When all the preparations were complete, the invitation was sent out to all the guests!

 The trouble all started as the invited guests were too busy to show up and the excuses poured in. So, the “b” guest list was sent out but they too, sent their regrets. Too busy!  

 So, the king sent out the “c’ list.  This list included literally anyone willing to come. And come they did.  “So the servants went out into the streets and gathered all the people they could find, the bad as well as the good, and the wedding hall was filled with guests.” (Matt. 22:6). Among the guests, there was one who showed up, not dressed properly for the wedding. He wanted the food, but not to honor the king and the gift that was offered.  They tossed him out! Jesus introduces this parable as reflecting the kingdom of God.

 To be invited to God’s table and enjoy all the riches there is our privilege and it should be accepted as the gift that it is. God is not lucky to have us! It is our privilege to be a part of His family. May we come humbly and with thankful hearts. What a gift to be invited to such a rich banquet every day!  Spread the word! Everyone is invited.

 Dear Father,

 Thank you for the gift of salvation. I know that it is by grace, and I did not earn it. Thank you for inviting me.  It is such a privilege.  I pray that You would give me the opportunity to invite someone else today!

 In Jesus Name,

 Amen

5 Things we Could do When the Path Before us is Hidden

 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.” Proverbs 3: 5,6

 How many times have we found ourselves in a quandary, trying to figure out what is the way forward?  I have faced it in relationships with people dear to me and in those seasons when  the next steps in my life are far from clear.

 The path forward can become obscured for many reasons. It could be that it is simply not the right time, and we find ourselves in the place of waiting. There are times where fear can act as a hinderance as to what is the next right thing. I have faced situations where the way forward seemed so clear until I heard something from a trusted person and their words stopped me right in my tracks.

 I have often found as I slow down, pick up my journal and favorite pen, that God has helped me see things more clearly, perhaps in my life or in the lives of those who are causing me confusion.  

 Asking the right questions is very helpful.

1. God, am I taking the wrong fork in the road? 

2. Are You asking me to wait?

3. Is there someone You want me to talk to?

 I love the advice in Proverbs 3:5-6.

1.   Trust in the Lord - believe Him, depend on Him

2.    With all your heart – not just a little bit or even most of your heart, but fully. I find I am best able to do that as I practice giving over my dilemma and say thank You Father for hearing me. Thank you that You will show me the way.

3.   Do not lean on your own understanding – None of us ever see the full picture. God does. He knows the details we are not privy to. He knows the plans He has for us for the days to come and He understands people like we never will.  

4.    In ALL your ways acknowledge Him – We must make certain that there is no part of our life that is godless.  Even when we are fearful, confused, angry, frustrated.  Acknowledging His presence in times of uncertainty is not only comforting but helpful in determining the next step. Know this, He is with you whether or not you feel it.

5. He will direct your paths - I love that there is not an age limit on this promise. It applies all the days of our life. He promises to direct our paths, and we need to believe Him and wait for Him to show us the way forward.

 Dear Father,

Thank you for Your word which truly serves as a lamp to my feet. Where my faith is small today, in certain areas, I ask that You would increase it. Where wisdom and patience are in short supply, I ask that You would give me all that is needed. Show me the way forward. Thank you.

 In Jesus Name,

 Amen

The Wonderful Effect of God’s Nearness to Us.

. “When my anxious thoughts multiply within me, Your comfort delights my soul.”

Psalm 94:19( NASB 2020)

 Bad news or hard-to-hear news is never easy to receive. Yet, it is part of life. We have no end of stories that would apply.

 If there is one thing I can successfully allow to multiply in my mind it is anxious thoughts. One anxious thought leads to another. Worst case scenarios are not far away. Perhaps you can relate. Where this is the case, there are no end of large hurdles one must somehow get over.  And if this happens at night, it’s even worse.

 It can truly feel like my foot is slipping from the “rock” on which I have stood for so long. As I think about various difficult situations, people or disappointments, that is when my foot begins to slip for I fear what is next.

 This verse however leads me to a different place - “Your comfort delights my soul.” How does this happen?

 I will tell you this, at least for me, it is not automatic. I practice the following.  First, ‘Be still and know that I am God.’  I try to stop the circuitous and dead-end thinking. It has to stop and only I can stop it.  Second, I bring God to mind.  I consider His greatness.  Sometimes, simply reflecting on the greatness of God puts my heart at ease. He is high and lifted up; so much greater than me.  It leads me to worship Him, even in the quiet of the night.  Third, I call to mind His nearness.  He is both infinitely great and very near.  He says, ‘Do not fear, for I am with you.  Do not be anxious; I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will uphold you with my victorious right hand.’ (Isaiah 41:10) He is near to those who call out to Him, near to the broken hearted, near to the humble. 

 In all of this, we say thank you to the Father. God sees the challenges you face. He knows the hurdles you must cross and promises to meet you there. Take comfort today that God loves you and, though His greatness is unsearchable, He is near to you.

 Dear Father,

 Thank you for the beauty of Your word and the comfort of Your presence. Thank you for Your faithfulness and that I can trust you with what I don’t understand and what scares me. You are good and fully trustworthy. I give You the situations that are troubling me today. I lay each one down at Your feet and thank You for hearing me as I pray.

 In Jesus Name,

 Amen 

The Priority Switch

 I have been a pastors’ wife for almost 33 years. I remain surprised that God chose me for this as I have so often felt unqualified. Today when I was reading the scriptures this verse jumped out at me: “Jesus turned and said to Peter, ‘Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the concerns of God, but merely human concerns!’” Mathew 16: 23.

I know... weird hey? I took time to talk this over with God this morning and asked Him what was up with this verse. Why are you pointing it out to me? Wasn’t this just to Peter, surely it could not be about me too? Peter was not interested in seeing Jesus die on the cross, he did not understand the big picture or God’s purposes. It took a while for me to understand where the Spirit was going with this!

 In ministry, and I am sure it is true for all of us, it is not hard to get God’s priorities and mine mixed up. It is easily done in this “me first”, “you matter” culture we live in. We do for sure matter to God but that does not mean we put our goals or agendas ahead of God’s.

 I remember years ago, we had this person who would play the drums and it drove me batty. I was complaining to God about it during a service. You see, I usually sit at the front beside my husband, so the drums were especially loud in our small space. Do you know what the Lord said to me?! “Move to the back”. I seriously could not believe it. That was not what I was expecting Him to say.

 Today, the Lord just gave me a gentle nudge reminding me that His agenda and mine are not always the same. I wonder if you can relate somehow to what I am saying here. I asked the Lord to show me where in my life I have gotten my priorities and His mixed up and I’m working already to straighten things out.

 Dear Father,

I know You have priorities and so do I. Forgive me when mine get in the way of what You have planned and want to have happen. Give me wisdom to respond as I should when  You tap me on the shoulder this next week. Thank you, Father,

In Jesus Name,

Amen.

The First 2 Things I Tell Discouraged Parents.

 “What sorrow awaits those who argue with their Creator. Does a clay pot argue with its maker? Does the clay dispute with the one who shapes it, saying, ‘Stop, you’re doing it wrong!’ Does the pot exclaim, ‘How clumsy can you be?’”

Isaiah 45:9 NLT

 When I speak to parents or individuals who are overwhelmed by sorrow and hopelessness, there are two things especially I like to tell them.

 1.      God is not finished yet. We despair sometimes as we watch a loved one make choices in their life that are far from wise. We long to give advice and take whatever control we can. When they were kids that is one thing, but they are grown up now and very possibly, not asking for our input or help.  Prayer is the only helpful option left available to us. A few years ago, I was feeling quite a bit of despair because of choices that were being made by a loved one. As I was rolling around in hopelessness and despair, the Lord spoke to me: “This is not the sum of my work”. I will never forget that, and I continue to remind myself if I am slipping into despair that God is not finished. He does not leave the work of His hands, half done.

2.      In sorrow, I have heard many people (parents especially) almost ready to give up on praying for their loved one. The Devil would love it if we bought into the lie that prayer is a waste of God’s and our time. Prayer always matters and God is constantly at work, whether we can see it or not. Prayer is never a waste of our time. God moves mountains and it is done through prayer. Alfred Tennyson reminds us that, “more things are wrought by prayer than this world dreams of”.

 Isaiah 45:9 reminds us that God is the potter, and He knows what He is doing. I remember one of my granddaughters showing me some unfinished pottery from her pottery class, the thought of judging her unfinished work never crossed my mind! In the same way, as we look at what is happening in the life of one who is dear to us, their choices or whatever it may be. Remember, God is not finished yet. We have to give our loved one over to God and trust them with the Potter, to do what He knows best to do. And pray. Jesus said in Matthew 19:26 “With man this is  impossible, but with God, all things are possible.” That, my friend, is good news!

 Dear Father,

Thank you for always being at work with my loved one! Thank you that you are not finished yet. I choose to leave them in your hands today. Thank you that I can pray for them and entrust them to your care.

In Jesus Name,

Amen.

First Things First!

“Enter His gates with thanksgivingand His courts with praise.Give thanks to Him and bless His name”. Psalm 100:4

It is easy to get into the habit of rushing into God’s throne room to tell Him all about what is grabbing at your heart and mind now, without first beginning with Thanksgiving. I have found this to be true in my own life. This morning, I felt like the Spirit tapped me on the shoulder and reminded me, “start with giving thanks.” I took that to heart and began thinking about what it is I should thank God for. My husband Bill has encouraged me (especially on those days it is hard to know what to be thankful for) to ask God. So, today that is what I did and here is my list.

 Father, thank you for:

 1. Strength to do the things I have to do, and don’t really want to.

 2. The way You are taking care of all the loose ends in my life.

 3. Taking care of the things around me that frankly, look impossible from where I stand. I know that with You, all things are possible.

 4. Thank You for Your abiding presence in every season of my life.

 5. Today I am thankful that You know what I need even before I ask.

 6. My family and friends who make my life richer every day.

 7. My grandchildren. They light up my life in so many ways.

 8.. Thank You for the Fall and the beauty in it and new opportunities each season brings.

 9. For books! I love to read, and Fall is a great season to read!!

 10. Thank You Father, this list is not complete because You have given me so much to be thankful for. It could be SO LONG!

 Dear Father,

You are faithful in every season and thanksgiving needs to be in my life every day. I thank You for this important reminder. Thank You for Your Holy Spirit that speaks and leads us.

 In Jesus Name,

Amen

Two Great Reminders from this week!

There are two important things I was reminded of this week. The first one came to me when I was reading Nehemiah. In the first chapter, Nehemiah had just arrived in Jerusalem, which was not rebuilt yet.  There it reads, “I had not told anyone what my God had put in my heart to do for Jerusalem.” (Neh. 1:12)

 I was thinking back to the times in my life where God had put something in my heart to do and the impact of those ideas. God does give us ideas.  When He places them in our hearts, we must act on them. Sometimes they take great courage, other times, not so much. It can be something as small as an act of kindness which is not a huge deal, except perhaps to the recipient. Or it can be something big, like writing a book or making a change that really was not on your radar. The fruit of our decision is not always known to us.  In my experience, when I have had the privilege of knowing, I am pleasantly surprised by the impact of that one idea which God placed in my heart and which I then acted on.

 The second thing is this. I had just sat down to pray for one of my kids and, honestly, had no idea how to pray for them.  I just knew that I wanted to pray for them.  Then I was reminded, “In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.”(Romans 8:26)  Sometimes He gives us words and precise prayers.  At other times, all we feel is a great burden and deep love.  Either way, He is helping us.  I am so thankful that we don’t always have to worry about what the exact prayer should be, because the Spirit will take care of that as I just lay my loved one down and trust God to do what is best.

 Dear Father,

 Thank you for the way you remind us of important truths. Thank you for planting ideas in our hearts and for helping us in our prayers when we don’t know what to say.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

Hope the Days When the Waves are Overwhelming!

“’Yes, come’ said Jesus.”  So Peter went over the side of the boat and walked on the water toward Jesus. But when he saw the strong wind and the waves, he was terrified and began to sink.  “Save me Lord!” he shouted.  Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed him. “You of little faith, why did you doubt me?” Matthew 14: 29-31

 I can honestly say I have never walked on water, but I am familiar with that sinking feeling. The wind and the waves of life can become too much for anyone.

 When I was younger, I would climb mountains. They were very high and the hike was challenging. While I was in decent shape, I definitely came to the end of my own resources and had to call out to God. He met me there. He did not take me off the mountain but gave me strength for the climb.

 Bill and I have ministered for 31 years now at the  same church.  Part of the ministry is to the streets of Toronto.  We have  loved it but, let me say, it does not come without its challenges. Lately, ministry has felt like the wind and the waves are battering against us and I find myself calling out to Jesus to save us. I know He will. We are where He wants us, and His eye is upon us. I also know He is faithful.

 We go through seasons in our lives where the wind is particularly hard.  As Peter called out to our Lord to save him, the same invitation is given to you and I. He loves us and does not forget us. He will reach out and help us. It does not mean that He will always remove us from the storm, but He will give us what is needed for this season we find ourselves. He helps us take our eyes off the situation before us and put them onto Him. That is when we find hope for what we are facing.

 Perhaps you are dealing with a loved one who is suffering or maybe it is you. My prayer for you today it that as you call out to Him, He will reach down and pull you up and your eyes will look upon Him - not on the wind and the waves.

 Dear Father,

 You see me in every season of life.  You are faithful.  As I call to you today, I ask You to rescue me. I need You to intervene! Thank you.

 In Jesus Name,

 Amen

Why Giving People a Second Chance Matters

“ Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged. And why worry about the speck in your friends’ eye when you have a log in your own.” Matthew 7:1-3

 First impressions are powerful. We all have them. We meet someone and sometimes we size them up pretty quickly. It is not always fair. This week I have been thinking about first impressions and the wisdom to know that people can change, they don’t become perfect, but they do become perhaps gentler and humbler. They have learned to listen more and talk a bit less. Whatever the case, people do change- some sadly become worse but some become better. They realize the truth of how they have been treating people and choose to change.

 This past week I saw a young man who used to be arrogant . He was unwilling to listen and heed the advice he asked for. He must have figured some things out. It has been a few years since I had seen him, and I could see that this young man had changed. I watched him as he interacted with people, listening to them and it was evident how gracious he was. I was impressed.

 We make first impressions every single day, standing in a line waiting your turn at the grocery store to how we interact at a social gathering.

 Matthew reminds us to be careful how we judge and that we all have a plank of some kind in our own eye. This plank skews our view and thereby making clear perceptions, difficult. There is a very good reason we need to be quick to extend grace with people and slower to cast hard and fast judgement. One reason, we could be wrong and the other is simply, we can be guilty of the very same thing that irks you!

Let’s not hang too tightly to first impressions. Let’s choose rather to extend that same grace we all hope will be extended to us.

 Dear Father,

Thank you for your love and the way you love me. Help me love those around me and extend your grace. Help me let go of the bias I have held onto where that is needed.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

Yes.. God is always working in our lives!

“And be sure of this; I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Matthew  28:20b

 Do you ever find yourself whining, out loud or just in your head, “really Lord, we are still here? Why do I feel so discouraged?  I feel like I have been here before. I know I have so much to be thankful for, yet life  feels a bit uphill these days.  

 These sorts of thoughts have been nipping away at my mind these past few days. I asked our  Good Shepherd, Jesus, about this. It is a wonder He never tires of my many inquiries. It is funny really, when I stop and think about it, I know He sees what I don’t see. I see the tiny section of the pathway, He sees the whole path, start to finish.

 He is not standing nearby scratching His head and wondering, why are we here yet again? There are times in our journey as believers we must remember.  He is present, trustworthy and He has his purposes and details He is sorting out.

 The truth is when our timetables and quiet plans bang into His, we can find ourselves impatient and often discouraged. Honestly, there are all kinds of reasons we feel discouraged , prolonged illness, answers to prayers that seem to be forever on hold, or people who have disappointed us.. lots of possibilities.

 The Good Shepherd does not forget His sheep and wonder “ where did I leave them?’ He is present and hears our cries and our sighs.

 The one thing I do feel I hear my Good Shepherd saying to me is this, “rest assured, I am working. You may think I am just sitting on a bench nearby doing nothing, but that is not true. I am doing all kinds of things you do not see. In the meantime,  trust me, be thankful and rest in Me my child.”

 It is wonderful to know that Jesus, who is our Good Shepherd loves us and knows exactly what we need. If we can think of nothing else to give thanks for today- and some days, thanksgiving can be harder than others! Today we can thank Him for His unchanging, unwavering love for us and for being so near to us every moment of each day.

 Dear Father,

Thank you for being the Good Shepherd and that while I may be feeling a bit squirrely at this moment, you are not. Thank you for your wisdom and the plans you have for me. Thank you that I can trust You and that You never forget me.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

One Important thing our kids must have to be “successful” at school and life...

“Then the sons of Reuben the firstborn of Israel ( he was the firstborn, but when he defiled his father’s marriage bed, his rights as firstborn we given to the sons of Joseph son of Israel; so he could not be listed in the genealogical record in accordance with his birthright, and though Judah was the strongest of his brothers and a ruler came from him, the rights of the firstborn belonged to Joseph)...” 1 Chronicles 5:1-2 

Today as I write this blog, it is the first day of school for most kids. I watched my grand girls leave for school today. They had their new outfits, backpacks full of new notebooks, binders, pens etc. and hearts full of anticipation, and some anxiety as well I am sure!

As parents, we see our kids walk into the school those first few days and our quiet prayer is: “Dear God, help them find the right friends and get good grades!” There is one thing however, that is a bigger deal than friends or grades, and that thing is: character. Good friends and grades will only carry us so far in life. Good character is what carries us through the storms and disappointments that come to all of us. 

In 1 Chronicles 5:1 we are reminded of a guy, Reuben, who lacked good character and the wisdom which accompanies it. He was the first-born son of Jacob. When the blessings of his birthright were being given out, it passed him by because of a foolish lustful choice he made years before, and because of it he was disqualified. That birthright was passed to Joseph, a man who was rich in character. Joseph did not gain his good character by spending time on the beach, nor was the way before him set out beautifully, lacking all disappointments and struggles. Rather, his life was marked by them. 

I have noticed that today some parents seem terrified of their child suffering disappointments or failing. They don’t want to see their kids struggle in any way. Any potential struggles are removed or dealt with by parents. Perhaps I am overstepping my point, but this is honestly what I have observed. 

If our kids are never given the opportunity to struggle or face the challenges in life, good character will elude them. The most precious lessons are not found on the beach with every obstacle removed, it is through the struggles and hardships we face. This is not only true for adults, but for children as well. 

May we have wisdom to know how to respond when troubles come to our loved ones. Some troubles we can step in and help with... but not all of them. 

It is hard to watch our kids grapple with the challenges of life, but rather than removing every possible obstacle, invite them to call out to God and ask Him to lead them through the storm. They need to have the opportunity to grow and mature, which cannot happen when we are rescuing them from every possible challenge or disappointment. 

Dear Father,

Thank you for my children. I pray that You would give me wisdom to know when to step in and when to stand back. It is so hard to watch them face difficult things, but I know it is necessary. As parents, we so deeply need your guidance and wisdom. Thank you Father,

In Jesus Name,

Amen

My End of Summer Reset

The beginning of September feels like it should involve something new. Although I don’t have to buy multiple backpacks, pens, or notebooks anymore, I had to for many years. Now that the kids are all gone and buying all this for their own kids, September still feels like a new beginning.

This past summer has been great. I love summer and refuse to think much about winter. As I write this blog it is close to 40 degrees in downtown Toronto. I can hear the birds, the streetcars, and the bugs rattling away because of the heat.

I am reading a book called “The Habit Revolution” by Dr. Gina Cleo. I enjoy books like this because they challenge me to do better. No matter how old we are, we can always improve somehow or continue growing in some area of our lives.

Today is my first day back in the city, and you can tell that not only have my house and house plants been sorely neglected, but my garden has too. I am not an avid gardener, but I do enjoy seeing plants grow and flourish. Although my garden is looking a bit sad, I can tell you one thing that has flourished effortlessly... weeds! The small ones were easy to pull, others, however, were huge! I needed to ask my son to help me because the job was too big for me. We still didn’t even get the root. I am going to have to dig that thing out of the garden later... when it is not so hot.

I thought about habits I wanted to break. The ones that are not helping me need to go. However, if they are habits I have had for a long time, like that massive weed, they will surely require some hard work. As for the newer, smaller, not big-deal habits — I will need to be mindful to make different choices, but removing them will not be nearly as difficult.

God invites us to look to Him for whatever we need. There are some “weeds” in my life that need to go because they do not help, nor are they beneficial to anyone who knows me. I love that often-quoted verse: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” Philippians 4:13. Taking time to admit that without God’s help, we can’t do it reminds me of the first step in AA. “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol — that our lives had become unmanageable.” The first step in overcoming anything is to be honest about it and admit that our situation has become too much for us to overcome. As Christians, we have Jesus, who does not gasp in surprise at our struggle, but rather loves us and leads us along. When we stumble, He loves us and stretches out His hand, and we try again.

I love the simple truth that the mercies of God are new every morning. What habits might you like to create this fall, or which habit would you like to get rid of?

Dear Father,

Thank you for your willingness to help me as I think about some of the habits that are not helping me these days. I know I need to get rid of them. Lead me as I take a few minutes to think- what are they, Lord? What habits are getting in the way of me being all that I could be? I know that I will never be perfect, but I can always be better. Help me I pray. Thank you,

In Jesus Name

Amen

5 Things I have learned or was reminded of this past year.

 If you took a few minutes to think about 5 things you learned this year, what would you write? This is my list.

1-    It is easier to talk about something than actually doing it. Sadly, there are a few things I could list here. I keep talking about it, but that is as far as it has gone. I need to actually, get going. Perhaps figure out why I am talking about it and not doing it? What is holding me back?

2-    I have learned it is often wiser to reach out to people I would like to connect with rather than wait for them to call/text me. One can be left feeling lonely at times, and there is one easy way to remedy that. Make some plans!!

3-    I get way more done in a day when I have a list. When the kids were young, I made lists but there were so many challenges and needs. Now I am older, it is just my husband,my dog, and I. My days are pretty flexible. I have some ministries I am involved it. Yet, there remain many a day where I have to think, “What am I going to do today?”.  It is easy to waste a day and it is ok to have those days, but it is also nice to get something done. For me, if I have a list, it is much more likely to happen.

4-    Facing the challenges and worries of today and not getting caught up and losing sleep over the ones that are down the road. When you are a born worrier, looking ahead is not hard to do. Rather, letting it simply wait and trust God with what is in front of me today, is wise and not my default. I am trying not to let my mind walk down certain streets that cause me anxiety. On these streets in my head is the stuff I can’t fix or do anything about today. It has to wait, and I know that God will meet me there when it comes. For today, I will live today!

5-    While this lesson is similar to the above, it remains something I hold onto every day. God will faithfully hold onto all the loose ends in my life as I hand them over to Him. He is big enough and is faithful.

 I could write more but these are the first 5 that came to mind. What are you learning this year?

 Dear Father,

Thank you for always teaching me, patiently. I know that I have a lifetime of learning ahead of me and behind me. I pray that I will learn well what you are teaching me today. Thank you for your love and your presence with me.

 In Jesus Name,

Amen

Some Things We Have to Do Everyday!

“The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want” Psalm 23 :1

If the Lord is indeed my Shephard and I am not supposed to want, why do discontentment and anxiety nip at me?

 As I was eating my lunch today this question popped into my head, so I asked my Lord why this is. Should not all discontentment and anxiety be a thing of the past?

 I was reminded, there are some things in life that need to be daily practices. If we don’t want to get hungry, we eat. If we don’t want to be tired, we sleep. No one can do it for us. We have to do it for ourselves.

 In the same way, there are truths the Lord invites us to receive repeatedly because we are by nature “ sheep”. I have been reading a wonderful book in preparation for my ‘Oma’s Sunday School’ I put on for my grandkids during our summer vacation; the book is called “The Lord is my Shepherd” by Robert J. Morgan. What a life-giving book. Robert was a shepherd and is familiar with sheep. Sheep are skittish by nature. We are reminded in scripture in many passages that we are like sheep. One of the many things that has stood out to me, is this: sheep, unlike most mammals in the world, cannot manage without care. They need a shepherd. They can also be slow to trust, and stubborn. Maybe it sounds familiar?

 When I discussed my question with God, I was reminded that each day we need to remember who God is and receive what is needed from Him throughout the day. We walk along the way with Him, step by step. This Shepherd of our souls who sees all and knows all things, is more than able to give us what is needed in this moment. He has everything we need, and even more wonderful than this... He does not hoard it; He offers us everything we need. We must simply be willing to receive it.

 The other day, I was especially grumpy. Do you have days like that? I felt a bit sorry for Bill having to put up with me. Finally, I could not even stand my own grumpy pathetic thoughts, so I did the “name 10 things to give thanks to God for” and I asked God to dust me off. After that, I was able to receive what the Lord had for me at that moment.

 I love that we have a Shepherd who promises to never leave us or forsake us. This promise is not only for the good days but the dark days as well. I think we all have those from time to time.

 Dear Father,

Thank you for being my Good Shepherd. I come to you today in need of your peace that calms my fears and quiets the anxious thoughts that seem to rise when I am quiet. Thank You for giving all that I need today.

 In Jesus Name,

Amen

3 Little Words

“ I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Phil. 4:13

Do you ever have one of those days where you have a list of things to do, but frankly no motivation to do it? I sure do. There are many truths of Scripture that inspire me, like Philippians 4:13. As we stop and ask Jesus for strength for what is before us, we can call that step one. Changing our perspective could be step two. if we add these 3 little words, “I get to…”, things will quickly look very different for us. For example, today I get to clean the bathroom or I get to make yet another meal, and have another meeting. To be honest, sometimes exercising can be a burden to me. If I say to myself “Today I get to lift weights”, it helps me. You name it, often it is those tasks I have to do over and over again that can become most challenging.

Yet, even more challenging are the days we find ourselves in God’s waiting room. Today “I get to” trust God for all the undone and unresolved situations or troubles in my life or that of my loved one. This is something I have put into practice in these seasons as well and it has helped me.

Whatever you are procrastinating or struggling over - Jesus offers you strength. Receive His promise and consider telling yourself, “Today I get to….” You may just discover a brand new way to look at whatever is before you today.

Dear Father,

Today I ask for strength for what is before me. Thank you for the opportunity that I “get to” do what I know I must do today. Would you help me? I need your help and your wisdom! Thank you,

In Jesus Name,

Amen

When Listening Really Counts!

“ Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” James 1:19b

While driving home a few days ago, I saw a big Winnabagos hauling a car behind it. Bill’s father told us that once he saw a guy driving a Winnebago and also, hauling a car behind it. They were driving on a narrow highway with a steep hill beside them. Bill’s parents watched as the guys’ car became detached and went rolling down the steep hill. Immediately Bill’s dad sped up to tell the guy. As they tried earnestly to get the guys’ attention, he just sped up. I am sure he thought they were just plain nuts! This went on for a while. Finally, the Winnebago guy relented and pulled over. His parents explained to the guy his car was down in the valley miles back. It would have been much simpler for the fellow if he had just listened sooner.

How many times have we been in that same situation? We were given the opportunity to listen but chose not to and those times come usually at some cost to ourselves or others. Here are a few instances that came to my mind as I was pondering this. I know there are many more that could be added to the list regardless, here is my today’s list.

1. When we fail to listen to clear instructions by a health practitioner.

2. When someone tells me a better and smarter way to do something yet, I prefer to do it my way, which is harder and more work. Just because we have done things one way for many years, does not mean it is the best way.

3. I have lost count I how many times I have told myself to grab a sweater just in case and didn’t. I spent most of the hours that followed freezing! I dislike being cold!!

4. When the Lord tells you something you need to do or stop doing, and you fail to do so. While the others on my list are worth remembering, this one point is the most important. God sees what we do not.

5. When we choose to speak and when staying silent would have been so much wiser. There is a time to speak and a time to not. When it is time to speak, to have the wisdom to know when enough has been said!

6. My 2 sons wanted me to add when you see the sign that reads “Do not climb the electric fence “, you are wise to listen!

Dear Father,

Thank you for the opportunities that will come my way today to listen. I ask that I will have the wisdom to listen to what matters. Not everything I hear is wise and I ask you for wisdom to discern. Thank you Father.

In Jesus Name,

Amen.

Have you asked yet?

 There are many “how to” books written.  Last winter, I read Atomic Habits by James Clear.  I enjoyed it. I have read a few other self-improvement books over the years. One thing that is usually missing is “ ask God” for His insight into whatever you are dealing with.

 Then there are the many plans and solutions I dream up and I think how can I help make this great idea of mine come to fruition? Again, I often rush ahead and fail to ask God what His thoughts are in the matter.

 ! was reading 2 Chronicles 16 about King Asa. He sounds like a great king. He loved God wholeheartedly and spent most of his life pleasing God. He missed the boat, however, when it came to a great battle that was upon him in his 36th year as King Baasha of Israel came against Judah. King Asa came up with a plan, a good plan actually and it addressed the problem at hand. The REAL problem was this. King Asa forgot to ask God first. What did He think he should do? King Asa a few years later developed a disease in his feet. Again, he failed to ask God. He only consulted his physicians.

 The way King Asa was living his life is pretty common when you think about it. Many of us could likely relate to him. We make all kinds of great plans, and they work out. BUT we did not consult 2 Chronicles 16: 7a” At that time, Hanani the seer came to Asa King of Judah and said to him, “ Because you relied on the king of Aram and have not relied on the Lord your God,... “ Our Father or we ask God to bless our great plans after we have made them.

 t takes slowing down, taking your plans, and placing them at God’s feet, then wait to see what He says. There are definitely times when God does not seem to have much to say on particular plans, then there are other times when He has plenty to say or insight He offers so more understanding of what is at hand is made evident which in turn leads us to a better plan and sometimes, a later plan. Our timing is not always God’s.

 Do you believe that God is a God of strategy or can give us insights into a problem we are facing? Whatever is nagging at you today, take time, lay down the plans, and see what God says about them. He is the God of the impossible and the possible!!

 Dear Father,

Thank you for your love and your watch care over me and all who are dear to me. Forgive me for steamrolling ahead with my plans and failing to even ask You what You think. I do give you the plans for this season, I ask for You to direct my steps. Give me wisdom and speak Father, for I am keen to hear what you have to say.

In Jesus Name.

Amen