“ There is more hope for a fool than for someone who speaks without thinking”. Proverbs 29:20

In this season of parties and family gatherings, there is no end of conversations. What a treat it would be to get through this entire season with no regrets over what we said or how we said something. How many nights have we rehearsed conversations with what we wish we would have spoken instead of what we did?

Every time we gather, with people whether it is in a schoolyard picking up children or an office party or family gathering, our words hold power to bless or to curse or bring confusion. How do we avoid this? We could stay silent, but even with silence, regret can come.

To have meaningful regret-free conversations is born out of thinking before we speak. That can be very challenging, especially if we get caught up in the moment. Yet, if we just take a moment to think and ask ourselves if what we are thinking of saying is worth hearing or helpful or even if it is true? All of these things can make a big difference.

I try to make sure I have questions I can ask people. I have found people are very ready to talk about themselves and what is going on with them. They are happy that you have asked and take the time to genuinely listen. Most people never ask, “How are you doing” or “What are your plans”? There is no regret in listening! That is good news!

One last thought that may prove helpful is to remember, that it is ok just to be silent. We do not have to fill every moment with empty chatter.

My prayer is that in this season, we will love and listen well. May God give us wisdom and insight with each person, whatever their age. Everyone is important and how to talk and how we listen make a difference.

Dear Father,

Thank you for this season where we do a lot of visiting. I pray that you will help me to be wise with my words and wise even as I listen. I pray that those who I spend time with will know that they are important. Love people through me this season. Thank you, Father.

In Jesus Name,

Amen