Pastor Jon says: ”It is very important when entering into a relationship, to be very confident of what you believe to be right and wrong, and then to communicate that right at the beginning of the relationship. If the person you are with cannot respect your boundaries and more importantly you, than that is a very clear sign that the person is someone you don’t want to be with. “
Donna says-" I haven’t skied a ton on black diamond runs at various ski resorts. My kids would want you to know they have done way more then me! But, let me tell you this, I have done my share! I notice when you ski in the mountains, there are some boundaries clearly marked out due to danger of an avalanche. There a large signs telling you “ Danger, do not ski here!! Avalanche zone! “.
It makes me think of dating and the boundaries that need to be in place, for your own sake and the sake of the person you are dating.
I know that in ski country, lots of people love risk and they ski in the danger zones. In fact, some prefer it. They love the thrill, not counting the cost to themselves or those who they entice to join them on their perilous run.
If you give yourself to someone without boundaries or commitment, in my mind, it is like skiing in the danger zone. You may find your heart breaks even more if this person who claimed to love you.-walks away. Maybe you feel disregarded, used, lied to and struggle to trust again.
But you are worth waiting for! There is plenty of "wall jewelry" available. In the store I work at, the inexpensive jewelry is hanging on the wall. The good stuff is under glass. You need to ask. It is special, protected.
You are special. You are worth the wait. Not cool enough?
I remember a guy who I was counseling years ago in a high school I worked at. He was good looking, popular and great at sports. He was dating a very, very popular girl. When they were alone, she started to take her clothes off because sex had been a part of every relationship she had been in. Every guy she had been with seemed to only want one thing from her, causing her to feel as if she owed it to them. He stopped her. He believed that sex was for marriage and wanted to live by that belief. He respected her and himself. She couldn’t comprehend someone wanting to get into her heart and that was it! In his life, love was not expressed by a sexual act. She was felt rejected and confused. His explanation was too hard to understand and she broke up with him.
Not everyone is "doing it". It does not make your relationship better. It may complicate it.
Too late you say? I don't think so. It is a new day and you are still worth waiting for. Find someone who believes it and don’t settle. Your decisions of today can have consequences that last a lifetime.
Don't believe me? Look around. There is no shortage of people living with the burden of their choices.