Does you heart feel like it has been stepped on and set aside by someone you cared about deeply? You were pretty sure you mattered but not anymore? Please know,you are not alone in this. It really does happen to most poeple. There are some who meet Mr. or Mrs. Right when they are young and are still married today. While that is beautiful, it is also not super common. My suggestions here are for those who have broken dating relationships,though some suggestions could apply to other circumstances.
1. You need to accept the loss.
2. Know when you have talked about it enough. Honestly, the wound in your heart will not feel better because you tell your story over and over again.
3. Forgive them,even though they do not deserve it. After you forgive, move on. There really is a better match out there for you...honestly.
4. Even if your heart is in a crushed state, maybe do something for someone who could never pay back your kindness. Who is lonely that you could visit and bring a small gift to?
5. Find a great book and read it. Please let it be funny! Not a reader? Maybe a great movie.
6. Don't sit home alone.
7. Don't go drink alcohol. It might dull the pain but please know this, your pain will greet you once again in the morning. Honestly, I know too many people who have looked to alcohol as their comfort in hard times. Some of them turned into alcholics. It is a dangerous habit to get into.
8. Jesus is the healer of the broken heart. Ask Him for peace. He has great plans for you. He has not changed His mind.
9. Please know that the sun will shine again. Today and how you feel right now is NOT forever.
10. Even if you feel discarded by this person, there are others in your life that love you. Your life is important and you matter!
11. Don't go looking for a replacement " boyfriend/girlfriend" today. Wait. Let your heart heal. You need to be able to think straight and make a good choice.
12. Know this... It is in the valleys we find out who we are. Are you spiteful, mean and full of horrible things to say about this person who wronged you? Forgive...let go. Be kind even though they are not. Show the world what you are made of. You can't? It is too hard? God is waiting. He is a very present help in times of trouble (Psalm 46:1). He will not make your life magically perfect, but He will give you peace and strength for this difficult road.