There are two kinds of drinkers, the ones who do it because it is fun and that is it. In their heart, is a take it or leave it attitude. They do not need to drink to have fun. When the case runs out and they had only one beer, no big deal.
Then there is the guy/girl who are sweating over it. They were thinking about that beer all day long. In fact they think about it all day, most days.
Drinking alcohol can cover up shyness, awkward moments, cover up stuff you don't want to face on the inside. Sound familiar?
If you drink when you go to a party, or you walk yourself to the bar on a regular basis, you need to pay attention. It is a dangerous road you are on my friend, the ending is not a happy one.
If you miss work because of drinking- pay attention.
If you lie to go drinking, or hide that you were drinking- that matters.
If you think about it all day, wondering how you will get some- take note.
If you find a new excuse you drink each time- that also is a yellow flag
If your drinking is messing with relationships in your life - it is not going to stop, it will just get worse.
If you wake up with no memory after being at a party- that is also a danger flag.
Please know, you do not have to check yes to all these questions to be a problem drinker.
The biggest challenge a for anyone with a problem with drinking is admitting you have a problem. The next is the "want to" stop.
If your life is out of control, even a little bit, because of alcohol or drugs, you need help. It is very hard to do alone. Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous list all their meetings locations online. They have meetings all over the world. They also have more questions for you to answer. I know my list is not complete.
The first step that you need to take is;
1. Admit you have a problem, your life is in trouble then ask God to help you.
Alcoholism and drug misuse, is a very big deal. You do not think so, check out the lives of some older people you know who has ruined their lives. There is no shortage of examples if you have the guts to look around.
It takes tremendous determination and humility to quit drinking. No one hopes that one day, they will be a problem drinker or an addict. Stuff happens.
The question is; how far down this road to you want to wander before you get off? There are addictions counsellors, people who care for you...really care. Don't go to your party friends. Who has walked this road and managed to get off it? Do you know someone? Ask them for advice.
It is a tough road. I am cheering for you all the way. It takes alot of guts to look in a mirror and see yourself truly. Then to go one step further and do something about it? Wow, that is impressive.
One day, if you have the courage to be honest, you will be able to help another who is on the very road you are on today.
God loves you and your life is important. Don't let any substance steal that from you. You are not worthless. Your life is worth fighting for.
May God give you courage my friend. You are not the first, you can do it with God's help, one day at a time.