When is a Counsellor Helpful?

“ For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counsellor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, the Prince of Peace.” Isaiah 9:6

 A counsellor who is wise and helpful, full of insight and good advice is a great find. It is useless, however, if we fail to listen and apply what they suggest to us.

 Years ago, I read a book by an author named Taylor Caldwell called “The Listener”. Each chapter was about these random people who would go to this simple building and sit on a plain wooden bench. In front of them was a window with a curtain drawn. If I remember correctly, the person would pour their heart out until they were finished telling their heart-wrenching story. At the end of the telling, the curtain was opened and there was a statue of Jesus Christ. I can’t remember if He was on the cross or if it was an image. The person would then sit silently, as Christ would speak quietly and with wisdom, bringing peace to the individual sitting there. It was incredible how time and time again Christ could relate and understand something of the heartache.

 In Isaiah 9:6 Jesus is called “Wonderful Counsellor”, which He is. All of this is wasted if we fail to sit with Him.

 There is a day that stands out in my memory. Christ seemed distant and silent, and I needed to talk with Him and hear from Him. So, I had just baked cookies, made myself a cup of tea, and sat down at the table. The thought came to me, set a cup of tea out for Jesus, and give Him a cookie also. So, I did. Even though He did not drink His tea or eat His cookie. I poured out my heart and He spoke. I don’t remember what was happening then, but I do remember the peace I had after visiting Him. 

 To have a Wonderful Counsellor who is available any moment of any day or night is quite something. In addition, He loves you. He is thrilled every time you sit with Him.

 The Wonderful Counsellor is available to you today. Go to Him, pour out your heart, and receive from Him what He has for you.

 Dear Lord Jesus,

 Thank you for being to me the Wonderful Counsellor. Thank you for your love for me and an open invitation to come and sit with you any time. I love that! Give me the wisdom to sit with you, to speak and listen, and then the courage to apply what you say.

 In Your precious name, I pray,

 Amen.

If you struggle with a good sleep- this may help!

“ There is more hope for a fool than for someone who speaks without thinking”. Proverbs 29:20

In this season of parties and family gatherings, there is no end of conversations. What a treat it would be to get through this entire season with no regrets over what we said or how we said something. How many nights have we rehearsed conversations with what we wish we would have spoken instead of what we did? 

Every time we gather, with people whether it is in a schoolyard picking up children or an office party or family gathering, our words hold power to bless or to curse or bring confusion. How do we avoid this? We could stay silent, but even with silence, regret can come. 

To have meaningful regret-free conversations is born out of thinking before we speak. That can be very challenging, especially if we get caught up in the moment. Yet, if we just take a moment to think and ask ourselves if what we are thinking of saying is worth hearing or helpful or even if it is true? All of these things can make a big difference. 

I try to make sure I have questions I can ask people. I have found people are very ready to talk about themselves and what is going on with them. They are happy that you have asked and take the time to genuinely listen. Most people never ask, “How are you doing” or “What are your plans”? There is no regret in listening! That is good news! 

One last thought that may prove helpful is to remember, that it is ok just to be silent. We do not have to fill every moment with empty chatter. 

My prayer is that in this season, we will love and listen well. May God give us wisdom and insight with each person, whatever their age. Everyone is important and how to talk and how we listen make a difference. 

Dear Father,

Thank you for this season where we do a lot of visiting. I pray that you will help me to be wise with my words and wise even as I listen. I pray that those who I spend time with will know that they are important. Love people through me this season. Thank you, Father. 

In Jesus Name,

Amen

3 Simple Reasons we should give people a second chance.

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” Ephesians 4: 32

People have always said that first impressions matter, and it is true, they do. The challenge I face, and perhaps you too, is when it is a poor impression of someone, giving them that second chance is not easy. Here are four reasons second chances matter. We are not called to be judges. We need to choose, and it is a choice to extend grace.

1. We do not have all the details of that person’s day. Maybe they just got bad news that day and they are off their game. We all have days like that. 

2. Many days, we don’t always give the best first impression and hope that grace will be extended to us so we too can have a second chance. 

3. Writing people off after one meeting is harsh. While wisdom needs to be applied, so does grace and love. 

Last week I was confronted with my own harsh heart, and it challenged me to reconsider my firm judgment I had placed on this individual. I asked God to forgive me, and I returned and tried again. I still had to watch my thoughts and I am glad I did. Casting fast judgments does not require a how-to course, but letting go of the judgments and extending grace will require intentionality.  To be gracious is a choice and an important one at that. 

On those days when our hearts are running low on love and grace, ask Jesus, who is the author of all of that, to give you what is needed. He is generous. Watch your heart today and guard against those fast judgments. It can and is very habit-forming and a good one to work on getting rid of. 

Dear Father,

Forgive me today for my fast judgements that I have made. I ask for your Holy Spirit to fill me with love and grace for the people I meet today. Thank you,

In Jesus Name,

Amen. 

What Really Matters

“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and all your soul and with all your mind, and with all your strength…, You shall love your neighbor as yourself. There is no other commandment greater than these.”

Mark 12:30-31

I love knowing what is most important when I am dealing with a problem or facing something that is overwhelming. 

As I look ahead to December, I know it will be busier for me and likely for you as well. I was listening to my favorite podcast today, “The Lazy Genius.’ She was talking about how to get everything done and organized as we look to the month ahead of us. Getting things done always makes me a happy girl. However, I am faced with the pressing question, ‘What matters most really?’ Is it my to-do list or perhaps something else?

I was reminded of this verse, where Jesus explains to us what is highest on His agenda. To love God with all our heart... and to love the people He brings our way. This is what matters to Him the most. To love God wholeheartedly and to love people well.

I have been taking time this week to ask the Lord “Who do You want me to show your love to this week?” I am thankful that it is not a guilt thing. He will strengthen us and direct us as we look to Him. 

If your heart is feeling a bit depleted because of the challenges you are facing in your life, He has everything you need to love those He has called you to love. He loves you and is full of mercy. 

I think of many times that I had to extend my love to someone I honestly did not want to. Perhaps they had hurt me or Bill, but I had to get over that and still be loving. I had just barely managed to forgive them and now I had to show them love and mercy?! I asked God to give me what was needed, and He did. It was given to me at the moment, not beforehand.

We are called to love Him and love others, and He has everything we need to do that. 

Dear Father,

I love you and I am thankful for your love. I ask You to fill me again with your love so that I can love all the people that you bring to me. Thank you!

In Jesus Name,

Amen

How can I know when I am facing the spirit of Intimidation?

“For God has not given us a spirit of timidity but of power and love and discipline...” 2 Timothy 1:7

 To be made timid is not a good thing.  It is not just being shy.  It is a lack of courage and confidence. It is being easily frightened.  It is pulling back from the very thing God is calling you to do.  It is to be intimidated.  Paul states here that it is a spirit, not just a personality issue.  That being the case, how can we recognize its evil presence?

 1.     The spirit of intimidation comes to us especially when we are working hard to do exactly what God has asked us to do, as Timothy was.

 Look at the story of David and Goliath. 1 Samuel 17:1-50. As you read these verses, you will see quickly that though David was being called by God to face a giant, the voices of those he encountered were very intimidating.  

 2.     It can come from those closest to us.  David’s family members were angry with him and accuse him of showing off and warn him that he is going to get himself killed. They tell him explicitly that he is acting foolishly. (28)  3.     It can come from leadership over us.  Saul, who should be supportive, attempts to sow seeds of doubt in him. He tells David in no uncertain terms that he cannot possibly take on this giant. (33)

4.     It definitely comes from our enemy.  Goliath himself is full of threats and throws insults at David. He completely mocks David making it clear that David is no threat to him. (43)

 What should we do?

 David states clearly that he has come to fight in the power of the Almighty. “You come against me with sword and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the Lord Almighty, the God of the armies of Israel. Whom you have defied.”

 David knew that it was God who asked him to stand up against Goliath. He was not doing it on a whim or a wish to look good. He wanted to defend the Lord’s great name and see God’s purposes go forward.

 I have often wrestled with the spirit of intimidation. Every time I write or when I speak at an event, I have thoughts in my own head saying, “People do not want to hear what you have to say”, “ You are wasting people’s time” or “ These people are totally bored - you need to stop”. That is the spirit of intimidation. I have not had to battle voices from the outside like David did, rather it is a collection of whispers in my head, especially evident when I am doing something I know that God has asked me to do.

 My life would be so much simpler if I did not bother to ever write or speak publicly. Yet, to stay silent, I feel like I have grieved God. I have learned to recognize my enemy’s voice and in Jesus Name, I rebuke it. I know who I am and why I am doing what I do. It is very different from the times I am trying something new, and it feels daunting or overwhelming. There is not a voice speaking and making me feel small and worthless. Hard things can be intimidating, but we deal with that in different ways, breaking the task up into manageable pieces, etc.

 Have you experienced the spirit of intimidation?

 Dear Father,

 Thank you for Jesus and the power of His Name.  Thank you for the way You help us to stand up against the giants in our lives. Thank you for calling me to an important task.  Give me wisdom, insight, and courage to stand firm and do what You have asked of me.

 In Jesus Name,

Amen.

2 Things I am working on getting back since Covid.

Covid took a lot from all of us, some more than others. I was thinking today about what it has taken from me and what I am working hard to take back.

1. It is easier to stay home and do my own thing than engage with friends, even though I love them, and it is life-giving!  I have discovered that I need to make a conscious decision to get out there and take time to enjoy the friends that I have. It is easier to stay home, but it is not necessarily good for me either. I am working on finding the balance. 

2. “Practicing hospitality “ Romans 12:13b

Having people over to your home, makes them feel valued and seen, everyone needs that. It gives the opportunity to learn, listen, encourage, and laugh. People do not generally care so much about what is being served, whether it is a whole meal or just dessert or appetizers.

In my experience, often waiting for the phone to ring with an invitation can be a long wait. Instead of waiting, I think and pray about who we should try to have over and we make our plans. We love it.

Over Covid, it was hard to have people over, especially in the winter months. We could do campfires, but it was really cold sometimes. I am not a girl who loves cold! I did figure out some good campfire meals though. We didn’t do it a lot, but it was really nice when we did.  It is a new day now and I choose to practice hospitality again. I am easing into it. Christmas is coming and there are lots of opportunities to share food and time with many dear people.

I am reminded that in life, there are seasons. COVID offered me a season of being home and learning to enjoy some of the simple things, puzzles, crocheting, sewing, and like so many, baking bread.

It was nice seeing people slow down and have time to re-evaluate what is important in life. Busyness has a way of quieting that voice in our lives, at least it does in mine.

I recall many times in Scripture when Christ sat and broke bread with his disciples and the people he spoke to. There were also times when he performed miracles where food and fellowship were part of the story. While there was likely a lot of laughter, also present was an opportunity to say what was important. Hospitality can open the way for us as well to have meaningful conversations.

What are you working at taking back since COVID-19?

Dear Jesus,

Thank you for being a Lord and Savior in every season of life. I pray that you will lead me through this season. I pray that you would help me to take time to care for those who need it and who will also breathe life into me. Thank you.

In Jesus Name,

Amen.

My 3 Struggles with Halloween

 When I was a kid, I loved Halloween. It was a lot lower-key in terms of decorations but was big on giving great candies. We usually dressed as cats or some other animal, except my brother, Doug. He was always a television set. We would each have a pillowcase in hand, and we would get a ton of candy. It was a lot of fun. 

 I did some reading about Halloween’s roots. For the most part, what it was in the past does not seem to inform the present. One thing that was clear, in the ancient or the Christian tradition it was a time to remember those who have passed before us. Another article spoke of a celebration of the harvest. I doubt any of this is top of anyone’s mind as kids rush door to door. It sure was not mine when I was a kid.

  Here are 3 things that troubles me about Halloween.

 1.     All the chocolate that is waiting for me to give out! They seem to call out to me no matter where they are stored. That is a problem! If I manage to leave every box unopened, well then all is well. Let’s just say one of the bags was opened and there are likely no Reece’s peanut butter cups left in that bag. 

  2. Very Frightening Decorations: In a time when the anxiety of children is at the highest level in my memory, house after house is decorated to scare the liver out of kids, at least where I live. I know it is all in “good fun”. I wonder honestly, has it gone too far? In some stores, they were even selling skeletons that talk and are about 10 to 20 feet high. Many of the front yards are now creepy-looking graveyards with skeletons clawing their way out of the ground. While creative and fun to some, it may be a little too terrifying to some kids?

 3.  Perhaps what is most penetrating for us is the way that those who practice evil take advantage of this day.  For years, it was a well-known fact that the witches of the city gathered in a bar at the intersection where our church is on this day to celebrate all that is evil.  We share nothing with them.  

 As Christians, we are given the privilege of choosing to cling to the Light of the world who is Jesus. John 8:12 “I am the light of the world, whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” In this light, we find true hope and the One who has conquered the evil one, and that is something to celebrate!

 Dear Father,

 Thank you for Jesus who is the light of the world. He is the overcomer, and I am so thankful. Give me wisdom today to navigate all that this day holds. May Christ’s light shine through me. 

 In Jesus Name,

Amen

The Difference waiting on God makes.

“Yet those who wait for the Lord will gain new strength; they will mount up with wings like eagles. They will run and not grow tired. They will walk and not become weary. Isaiah 40:31 (NASB1995)

It is one thing to quote a Bible verse, or sing it out in a tune, and another thing to practice and apply it. 

When we wait on God truly here are a few things that happen. 

1. Our perspective can change. – I think of times I have sat with the Lord in challenging times in my life, and he gently reminded me that His mercies are new every day. A new day for good things to happen. Even if it has nothing to do with what is happening around me, good things still happen that are worth being thankful for. 

2. As we wait on God, we can come to the realization that we are not truly trusting him in this circumstance. We are giving God a lot of advice perhaps, but not resting in Him and believing that God is able to do what you or I cannot do. When we go into His Throne room, we lay our burden down and leave it there. 

3. The peace of God that surpasses understanding is not borne out of wringing our hands in despair or fear.  Rather it comes as a result of waiting on God to make a way where there is no way. It comes from looking to Him to be our strength for this day, this hour. Some things are so challenging; we are on an hour-to-hour or even minute-by-minute practice of giving it over to God and thanking Him. 

4. As we wait on God, we are reminded that He is still God Almighty. He has not changed and will not change. Remembering the truth of this helps. While we wish and long for God to act swiftly and take all the pain and suffering away in this moment, He doesn’t. But one day He may. Until then, we look to Him for what we need to get through today. 

5. Lastly, His word of instruction on what we ought to do or not do does not come to us as we rush along. It comes to us because we wait on Him to speak and guide us. If you find yourself walking a rocky and uneven path today, you can’t run. You must walk and look to the Good Shepherd to guide you and speak to you, words of encouragement and instruction. 

This is only the beginning of a list of what comes to us as we wait up upon our Lord. He is there waiting for us to come and sit with Him. He has everything we need for today. 

Dear Father,

Thank you for the invitation to come and sit with You every day. Your throne room has no hours or time limits. Thank you for Your love and patience with me. I am so often in too big of a rush to wait on you. Here I am today though Father, speak to me and instruct me in the way I should go. 

In Jesus Name, 

Amen

Three More Eye-rolling Sayings

1.“Old dogs can’t learn new tricks”.

If we tell ourselves that we are beyond learning something new, that will become true for us; we will have given up and become old in our minds.  I don’t want to become old in my mind.  Isn’t it true that you can learn new things if you put your mind to it and do it in a way that is manageable?  I read the book ‘Atomic Habits’ recently. The whole point of the book is that small changes made doable can have a great impact. I have found this to be true.  A passage of Scripture that comes to mind is this ”…put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God” Psalm 40:3a. There is no age limit mentioned.   A new song can lead us to a new and better way of speaking, thinking, and ultimately... living. One small new step at a time. 

2.“God helps those who help themselves.”

 I have heard this saying more times than I can count. Some people think it is even a Bible verse. It is not. God helps those who call to Him and do so humbly. Consider Psalm 40:2 “ I waited patiently for the Lord, and he turned and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and the mire.”  The psalmist did not get out of this pit because of positive thinking and strategizing. He got out of this pit initially because he cried out to God who heard him and lifted him. The help was born out of a humble desperate call to God. It does not mean that we are all slugs waiting for rescue and we do nothing.  We call out to him.  We look to him for wisdom, strength, courage; whatever it is we lack. We look to God for instruction. God sees what we do not and knows what we need. Receiving it, however, begins with humility and asking him for help. 

 3  “God wants me to be happy.“ 

This way of thinking can lead us to places that are unhelpful and dangerous. While it is true God does not want to see us miserable, he does allow some fairly difficult things to happen in our lives. James 1:2 reminds us “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.“ A deep and enduring faith is possessed as we trust God through difficult days and steep climbs. To remember the promises of God and His resting presence in the storms we face is precious. The psalmist reminds us that God is a very present help in times of trouble. God loves us when times are great, as he does when days are hard.  He sees us and waits for us to call to him. If we think God wants us to be happy only, that is a naïve way of thinking. He wants us to be dependent upon Him and trust him, no matter what. 

Dear Father,

Thank you for your presence with me today. Thank you that you can put a new song in my mouth, and I ask that you do that. I ask that you give me wisdom for today, for the challenges I will face. I ask for your peace to rest on me. Thank you. 

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen

5 Popular Sayings that do not always prove to be true.

“ Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6

1. The grass is always greener on the other side.

I have a very distinct memory of sitting on some steps on the front porch of a girlfriend’s house. Beside me, was her husband. It had been her birthday, and it was a lot of fun and a privilege to be there. The husband, however, wow…. So, discontent with his lovely wife. He went on and on about different women he wished he had married instead. I was shocked. I remember telling him, “The grass is NOT greener on the other side”. He did not believe me. He went on to have multiple affairs. I doubt he discovered any woman better than the one who has somehow stood by him, forgiving over and over. Discontentment about many things in our lives is often the author of this kind of thinking – ‘If only...then things will be better.’ We can wait a long time and miss many wonderful blessings and victories if keep thinking like that. Sometimes we do need to act and bring change. Feeding discontent, however, can be very negative, like in my story above.

2. Things can only get better.

There is truth in this, but sometimes things are not going to get better. If we keep doing the same thing over and over, we will have the same result. If that is the result you are going for – perfect, if it is not then you have to take a moment and think about what should be done differently. If we want things to get better often it can mean hard work mixed with sacrifice. Sometimes it means standing down and letting someone experience the consequences of their choices. Constant rescuing is perhaps not helping. For things to get better, we need wisdom and insight, and God has that for us if we ask Him. 

3. It is what it is. 

I hear this said often, in fact, I say it. If I am honest, usually it means there is a situation I cannot change and shouldn’t get involved with. But sometimes it can be a fallback excuse for inaction where something does not have to be as it is right now. It could change if we do something to bring change. There are big things and there are small things. Again, we need wisdom to know what is as it is and what it is not. It reminds me of the serenity prayer. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

4. You should always tell the truth.

You should tell the truth however, sometimes the truth is not helpful. People are not always ready for the truth at that moment, and we must wait for a better time. It requires patience and discernment. There are many times I do know the truth in a situation, but it is clear to me that if I spoke the truth- it will not be received. I think it is a bit like the passage of scripture where we are warned to not cast pearls before swine.

5. All we can do is pray. 

Prayer is a mighty tool for someone who has faith leans into God’s promises and seeks God’s intervention in the impossible. To come to a place where all we can do is pray is not a negative, it is a relief. We are not without hope or without options. We look to God in prayer for what is next. What should be said or not said, done or not done? We look to Him to make the path before us manageable and clear.  Prayer often leads to action.

Giving Thanks in the Valley

“Give thanks in all circumstances as this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

1 Thessalonians 5:18

 It is easier for most people to be thankful when the sun is shining and life is going as it should. It is another matter entirely when things are not good and the way before you is blocked and the sun is not shining. No matter which way you turn, you hit obstacles, disappointment, and the impossible.

 Yet our passage says to give thanks in every circumstance noticing the next verse in this passage says nothing like “except when”. I remember well the dark days when my loved one was drinking excessively several times a week. Life was hard, not just for our loved one, but those who loved that one and had to watch and pray and pray and wait and hope. Some days were harder than others, especially when the challenges of life or ministry were piled on top.

  Many times, Bill and I would sit and pray together, our prayers of thanksgiving were sincere as we thanked Him for the simplest of things. We thanked Him for His enduring presence and for our family as they were still many wonderful things to be thankful for.

  I think the most important thing I can tell you today friend is this. It is very difficult to give thanks to God when the trials we face become our center. God alone is our center and the Rock we must stand on every day if we are going to survive this season and be able to truly give thanks to God.

  Thanksgiving has a strange way of bringing us hope, even as we ask for forgiveness and bring Jesus back into the center. While perhaps in your life, you have someone you love dearly, whose life is not going well, and try as you might, pray as you do, you see no change, no movement. We have faced many days like that. While giving thanks to God is not our natural response it remains something we are called to no matter what. Psalm 100 tells us to come into His gates with thanksgiving… let us do that this week, no matter what you are facing.   Find simple things to be thankful for. There is always something!

 Dear Father,

 Thank you for a new day and for your presence here with me. Thank you for being a God for whom nothing is impossible. I lay my burdens down today, one by one.   Thank you that you put no limit on how much I lay down and never will you say, that one is too hard for Me. Thank you for listening to my prayer.

 In Jesus Name,

 Amen

A Great Blessing and an Annoying Robbery all on the same day!

Rejoice in the Lord Always and I say it again, rejoice! Philippians 4:4

We were very excited this weekend as one of our sons was able to buy a trailer at the Christian trailer park where Bill and I and his siblings also have a trailer. What a great day and such a wonderful deal and blessing for him and for us. We worked hard all day Monday to see what needed fixing on his trailer. He was so excited.

 The same day, Bill asked him if he could please help him take the boat out. Our other kids had very kindly taken our dock out. Just the boat and the lift were left. I was at our trailer getting our celebration supper cooking when he told me the motor, the gas, the plug for the boat, and all the tools were gone, even the lure from his fishing rod if you can believe it! We phoned our kids just in case for some reason they thought it wise to take the motor and gas and tools out of the boat, sadly no… all gone. Just the boat was left with the fishing rod and tackle box( hopefully everything is still there, we didn’t check that).

Bill was very disappointed. He really liked that motor. Not having the plug for the boat made getting it out of the water very challenging. He plugged the hole with a rag and he and our son dragged it out. Not an easy task if you had seen what they navigated. Normally you just drive down to the boat launch. So much easier!

 You get the idea, it was quite the day, but even at supper, we had to give thanks to God as we are still so very thankful for all He is doing and has done. We thanked him for the years that Motor served us and trust He will help us find another one. We have had to trust Him for much greater and harder things than a boat motor. It is frustrating, but people have had much worse stolen from them.

 Matthew Henry who is a Bible commentator and preacher from many years ago was also robbed. He wrote this list which made us smile.

1-    Let me be thankful first because he never robbed me before.

2-    Because although he took my wallet, he did not take my life.

3-    Although he took all I possessed, it was not much.

4-    Because it was I who was robbed and not I who robbed.

Perspective matters!

 We choose to rejoice in our Lord who does not change regardless of the day. He is good and He is good every day!

 Dear Father,

Thank you for your kindness to us, for our health, and for all the blessings that we enjoy every day.

In Jesus Name,

Amen.

5 Things I am Going to Keep Doing

“ I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

 It is easy to give up things that we do not like.  It is also easy to give up things that are helpful, but sometimes hard.  Here is the list I created this morning. I find some of these things hard, but I know ,I need to keep doing them!

 1.     I will not give up keeping myself in shape. Though it is not easy, it is important. No one else can do it for me. This morning I got myself back to running. It clears my head and makes me feel NOT my age. I realize many my age can’t run but thankfully I can. I may be slow, but I manage to get it done. I also lift light weights. It is doable. Whatever you choose to do – it has to be doable, or frankly, you won’t do it.

2.     I won’t stop praying for people or situations that seem impossible. I was thinking about this today. It can be discouraging to keep praying for someone and see no change. I was reminded today that God is always at work, seen and unseen. I know that with God, nothing is impossible, and I choose to believe Him and go to Him with all the impossibilities that weigh on my heart.

3.     Writing my Blog: I can’t tell you how many times I do NOT want to write. The other day, I was walking Penny – my dog whining to God about my blog. I told Him, “It is not like people read it a lot”. He said to me” I read it, is that not enough?”. Wow! So, I went home and wrote my blog. God does not always speak so clearly to me, but I love when He does.

4.     I want to keep reading. I love to read. I try to read broadly so I am learning and keeping my brain working. It is so easy to get lost in a Netflix series, but when I do that, it does NOTHING for me.

5.     Read God’s word. Reading my Bible and reflecting on His Word fills and satisfies my soul like nothing else. I like to read the news but honestly, it can really depress me. I do respond by praying about things that are happening in the world, but it will never satisfy me or soothe my soul.

 What are you determined to keep doing?

Dear Father,

 This is not my whole list, but definitely things that are important to me. Thank you for each time you help me with the things that matter. Hearing your voice and allowing you to lead me through a day is always big on my list. May I be found faithful today to do all You ask of me.

 In Jesus Name,

 Amen

Two Significant Lessons I learned in parenting my 4 kids.

A few weeks ago, I watched my daughter teach her 5-year-old, to ride a two-wheeler. There is a skill to not only know how to ride a bike but teach how to ride as well. You have to know how to run along behind the child while holding on as they ride. You also have to know when it is time to let go and let the child take the risk of falling. This little girl fell plenty, but Lisa encouraged her to get back up and keep trying. It took a few days but this 5-year-old mastered riding a  bike and is extremely proud of herself as she should be. Credit goes to her but also her mom who knew when to hold on and when to let go.

 Lesson One: Learn to let go at the right time.

 We do not parent a 4-year-old the same way we parent an 11-year-old or an 18-year-old. Things change, don’t they? A wise parent realizes in the teen years you better figure out what you need to say in as few words as possible because that is all they may well listen to. My teens hated lectures as I remember. They would listen to a story that made the point- as long as it didn’t take too long to tell it. Whereas when they are younger- it is often easier. They have more time for you and what you have to say. The younger kids needed more guidance, the older ones wanted to practice being independent. Finding the balance was challenging, sometimes we got it right, and other times... we did not.

 Lesson Two- Learning to discern when we as parents ought to step in and “fight” on behalf of our kids and when to leave it to God to sort out.

 “ He said, Listen, all you people of Judah and Jerusalem! Listen, King Jehoshaphat! This is what the Lord says, ‘ Do not be afraid! Don’t be discouraged by this mighty army, for the battle is not yours, but God’s. 1 Chronicles 20:15

 I think one of the hardest things for us as parents is having the courage to let our kids experience the consequences of poor choices or when they are recipients of something unkind or unfair.

 As I look back over the years of parenting 4 kids, the hardest thing for me to do, was to truly let go and let God do whatever He had in mind. It is easier when they are young and fall off the bike and you can bandage their knees. But it is another story entirely when they are older and face disappointments and failures. For example, times they don’t get the job, or they lose a job - or miss a promotion, or perhaps a significant relationship dissolves. The desire to step in and rescue is pretty strong, but it is not always wise. Sometimes we get to, but more often than not, we are left to pray and trust God to work things out.

 The finest work of our life is not our work or our ministry but our children. The hardest thing God has asked of us is to raise 4 children to walk humbly and trust in God every day of their lives. I am thankful He was there to guide us every day.

 In this passage in 1 Chronicles 20:16, the people of God are called to simply stand watch as God fights for them. Sometimes they had to fight, but not this time. Victory came and it was all God.

 May God give us courage and wisdom to know what He is saying to us as we think of our loved ones and the challenges they face.

 Dear God,

 Thank you for my kids and for your presence with us. I ask that you give me the wisdom to leave them with you always.  But God, when you want me to step into a situation which they are facing, give me wisdom to do or say what I ought to say, and not one word more or less.

 In Jesus Name,

 Amen

Stop talking about it and give it to God!

“ Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” 1 Peter 5:8

 The other day we tried to trim our dog, Penny. It did not go well; our trimmers were not working! Today I was determined to go to a store nearby and get them fixed. Off I went, we had talked about it more than once. I walked down our street, money in hand with one goal in mind.  Except for one problem… I forgot to bring the clippers with me.

 I was thinking as I walked back to get them, how prayer is a bit like this. We talk, sometimes excessively, about our problems and worries, but fail to give them over to God.

 In the same way, the clipper fix-it man does not fix the clippers unless he has them, so God cannot help us with the cares that are heavy on our hearts and minds if we fail to bring them to him. God invites us to cast every care onto Him and leave it there. When you think about the word “cast” the image of throwing something down comes to mind – a stone, perhaps, into a vast body of water and letting go of it - otherwise, there you will stand, stone in hand.

 My question to you today is this; Is there anything in your life at this moment you are talking about but not giving over to God? My prayer for you and for me is that we will have the courage, faith, and wisdom to bring every burden to God – even the very large ones, but not forgetting those that are lesser.

 I love how God reminds us here that He does care for us. He is not indifferent some days we may suppose. That is not true. God does not change from day to day, caring more on a Monday than on a Wednesday. He cares for you every day and this invitation is a 24/7 invitation.

 Dear Father,

 Thank you for caring for me and inviting me to cast all my cares upon you, every day. You do not change your mind. Today, I want to do just that. Today, I give you everything that is weighing upon my heart and mind. Take this burden(s). I leave them at your feet. Thank you that nothing is too hard for you.

 In Jesus Name,

 Amen.

Simply Listening Saves Us !

“He who answers before listening - that is his folly and shame.” Proverbs 18;13

 Who among us have not spoken too quickly? Perhaps we were anxious, nervous or in a rush. We assume we already know what they are going to say and rush to respond. The end result is the same. Our words end up making no sense and are wasted; simply unhelpful.  We try to pull them back but that is a little like backing up a long train once it has left the station.

 Not only are we left feeling, and perhaps looking, a bit foolish.  We also convey a message to the one whom we have interrupted that we don’t have time to hear them out. I have done this as a parent, or a spouse and as a friend. It grieves me when I think about it, if I am to be honest.

 Years ago, I read a very good book called “Margin”. One of the helpful pieces of advice I read there was to always remember, – “no one is as interested in what you have to say as you.”

 I have discovered that if I keep this truth in mind, I become a better listener and can be more present as people talk. 

 Listening to people is a principal which the Scriptures teach; “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10  One of the greatest ways we honor one another is by taking time to listen to them. The other side of this coin is knowing when we have said enough. I think it perhaps takes time to learn this, but people can only listen so long, and we have to know when enough is enough! To honor people is not just listening to them but also knowing when it is time to be the listener, if we have been the talker!

 Lastly this principal has no age limit on it; whether we are listening  to children or aging parents, friends, or employers.  Putting on patience and kindness has a way of ushering in the opportunity to be better listeners.

 Dear Father,

 Thank you for your patience with me as I pray and talk over all kinds of things with you. I ask that in this next week you will give me the wisdom and patience to listen well and be slow to speak and quick to listen.

 In Jesus Name,

 Amen

Do you ever feel smarter then God?

“ What sorrow awaits those who argue with their Creator. Does a clay pot argue with its maker? Does the clay dispute with the one who shapes it, saying ‘ Stop you are doing it wrong!’ Does the pot exclaim, ‘ How clumsy can you be?’. Isaiah 45:9

 I am not always a good passenger, especially when my husband is driving. I am pretty sure I can do better most of the time. He does not always enjoy driving with me. When I get scared and gasp because I think we got a bit too close to the car in the next lane whether it is his fault or the other driver, is immaterial. It scares me and in turn, when I gasp, I have almost caused accidents because I scare the liver out of Bill! As I reflect on this passage, I realize I do the same thing to God. Though His response is very different.

 In this passage, the people of God are in captivity in Babylon. God is raising up Cyrus to act on His behalf to set the people free. Many scholars believe he reflects the Redeemer to come. As you keep reading, we see the attitude of the people reflected in verse 9. God’s people are not happy. They are full of suggestions for God concerning their well-being and how He could be doing better.

 How many times have we found ourselves thinking we know for sure how God could have and should have done something so much better? We are not God. It is like us seeing one piece of a 1000-piece puzzle and then assuming to know exactly what this whole picture is and where is one piece fits.

 God sees the entire puzzle of our lives, from start to finish. The good news is that God is smarter than we are on our smartest day. God is all-wise and powerful. Will there be things in this life which will devastate us or confuse us? Yes! Will we wonder where was God? Possibly. We know He is the Good Shepherd every day. He does not take holidays and He is very near to us in times of trouble.(Psalm 46:1)

 I have all kinds of questions for God when I see Him. I struggled for years trying to understand why He allowed my dad to die young. I made a deal with God that I would go to Bible college in another province and His job was to take care of my dad. He passed away 7 months later. I struggled for years to understand what was God thinking? Why did He allow this to happen?

 I still have no answer, but I do have peace. I have come to a place where I can trust God in the midst of unanswered questions. If I have the courage to ask Him when I stand before Him, I will ask then. Until that day, I choose to trust Him and His goodness. I hold tight to His steadfast love which never changes.

 Dear Father,

Forgive me for the many suggestions and ideas I keep laying before you. Forgive me for my doubting and complaining that comes when I do not see Your hand move in the way I thought it should. I know it is I who serves You and NOT You who serves me. God, I trust You with my unanswered questions and unresolved situations in my life. Help me to trust and rest in You today.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen

Taming the Impossible!

“ The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12: 18

 Have you ever stood in wonder as you reflected on what you just said? Where did that come from? And you were ashamed. Your words helped no one, especially the one who had to listen to you. Immediately the Holy Spirit is letting you know that He is grieved. I am so tired of this. How long oh Lord will I find myself in this place?

 No wonder David in the psalms says in prayer and promise to God “ I said, ‘ I will watch my ways and keep my tongue from sin; I will put a muzzle on my mouth while in the presence of the wicked”. Proverbs 39:1 . I am not sure what difference the presence of the wicked make, for me it is in the presence of anyone. In Ephesians 4: 29-32 I am reminded that “ no unwholesome talk should come out of my mouth but only what is useful for the building up of one another. These verses refer to the people of God. I find it curious that within verses we are also instructed to forgive one another and be patient with each other. Turn from anger and wrath, and malice. I think that is because this is the driving force behind negative and unhelpful speaking. I think for me some days I am simply careless and this itself leads down dark roads.

 There is this guy who lived many years ago. He is a Greek Sage named Publius who said “ I have often regretted my speech, but never my silence.”

My words, our words matter to those that have to listen to us and to God. He even warns us that we are accountable to him for every word spoken ( Matthew 12:36). That alone stops me in my tracks. May we take a moment today and ask ourselves if the words we are going to speak?

·      Are they helpful?

·      Are they true?

·      Am I repeating myself??? ( a problem I have)

 Today, let’s practice taking a breath and thinking before we speak. It will help us all have a better day!

 Dear Jesus,

Thank you that as I confess my sin you forgive me. Today may I be careful to speak about what is helpful. I pray that today I will be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.

 In Jesus Name

Amen

7 Things I want to tell my grandchildren before my days are done.

“We will not hide these truths from our children; we will tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the Lord, about his power and his mighty wonders” Psalm78: 4

 We have a wall covered in photos in our dining room; none are great photos but that is not why they are there. Each photo represents a story of God’s provision and prayers answered. When our grandchildren come over, these pictures make a way for us to tell them of how God did what we could not.

 We serve a God who is faithful and fully trustworthy. I did not know any of my grandparents well. I met one grandmother twice and the other grandmother was never very interested in me or my siblings. I have no memories of any stories from her. My grandfathers’ had passed away long before I was born. I want to be a different sort of grandmother. I for sure want to be a fun grandmother but there are some other things I want them to remember. This is the truth most dear to my heart.My prayer and practice is to share these truths along the way with each precious child.

 Here is my list:

·    1.  Tell each of my grandchildren that life can be hard in this world, but God is real and able to help. I want them to know that when trouble comes, He truly is a very present help in times of trouble (Psalm 46:1).

·     2. Help them understand that God sees them, and He loves them.

·      3.Tell them that He is unchanging, , all-powerful and true through every generation.

·      4. I want my grandchildren to know that Jesus makes a huge difference in my life every day and I am lost without Him.

·     5. Tell them that Jesus gives us purpose and is merciful; He forgives us when we fall short.

·      6. Help them see that He is merciful and kind. He has plans for their precious lives and they are good plans.

·     7.  I want them to know that they have choices; all kinds of choices and decisions to make ahead of them. As they make those choices, I hope and pray that they will “ Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well”. Matthew 6:33

 They will not seek Him if they do not know that He is worthy to be sought. Someone has to tell them.I hope and trust their parents do but I want to do my part as well. Psalm 78 reminds us of how and why we need to tell stories of what we have seen God do over the years. It makes a difference. It did then and it does now.

 We all have stories, big and small. May God give us the wisdom and courage to speak up when the opportunity comes. Life can be frightening as we all know. All we have to do is read the news on any given day to know that. I think of what life will be like for these precious children in the years ahead. They will need someone bigger than people to lead them through whatever is ahead. He will be as faithful to them as He has been to us. I want them to know.

Dear Father,

You have given me many assignments in my lifetime, this one though is very dear to my heart. I ask that you would show me when an opportunity to speak up is before me. Help me to say what is needed and not a word more. Give me wisdom and insight into what truths you would have me share. What are my stories that I can share with them? Holy Spirit, draw each of my grandchildren to yourself. I pray for that child whose parent will not allow me to speak- then Holy Spirit, please do what I cannot. I pray for my loved one, soften their heart and draw them to yourself.

Thank you

in Jesus Name,

Amen

My Battle with that Wretched Scale!

“My Enemies will retreat when I call to you for help, This I know; God is on my side!”

Psalm 56:9

 I had a dream last night I went to the store to buy new workout pants and there were none that would fit me. I dreamt; everyone was pointing out all this weight I had gained back.

 I have been battling in my head about gaining back the weight I lost. I am pretty sure it was just me and my fears.

 I have not weighed myself. I have discovered that I have given that scale way too much power. When I stand on it and it is two pounds more than I want it to be or, God forbid, five pounds more, I will feel defeated.

 How can a number have that much power to dictate how I am going to feel about myself that day? Does anyone else know what I am talking about here? I have been battling this in my head for a long time. It is hard to simply “face the music” and chose to step on the scale and deal with what I see there. I would rather not. Why do I have to know? Why not just make sure my clothes fit me well and make that my target? That is my new plan.

 I started to read “Atomic Habits” by James Clear yesterday and what he says makes a lot of sense to me. Rather than count everything I eat and obsess over that, I will work on becoming a smart snacker as this is my downfall. It is something that is doable for as long as God gives me breath.

 Psalm 56 is about David being forced to take refuge among his enemies, the Philistines, because he is being hotly pursued by his own king, Saul. He feigns madness to save his own life.  Remember that David killed their hero, Goliath has defeated them in battle many times. He is in a very vulnerable spot.  David is calling out to God in this Psalm. I love verse 8 where he says, ”You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.” It is amazing to think that God has done this not only for David but for us.

 I have not conquered any leaders and am not staying up crying over this small frustration regarding me and the scale battle, but it does bother me.

 God invites me and all of us to come to Him and talk things over. I know that just like David, God is on my side as He is yours. Verse 10 reads “I praise God for what He has promised”; that is where I will keep my eyes today.

 I know that I am loved as I am, and this is true for you as well. Today I will spend my energy concerning myself with wise choices and pray for the greater issues facing me and those around me. That is a wise way to live!

 Dear Father,

 I ask that You change me from the inside. Quiet the lies and let me rest rather in what is true and important. I ask that you walk with me through each moment of this day.

 In Jesus’ Name,

 Amen